Firstly, I’ve decided to write this article/post not because I’m an expert when it comes to these type of things. I’m only 27 years old, not old enough to be a grandparent yet… because you know, our grandparents know a lot and have experienced a lot in life to be considered good in these things.
However, in my 27 years, I have experienced a lot of family, friend relationships feud/reconciliation that made me think I do actually have something to say about these things. (Also, the one that really pushed me to write this are the TV drama I’ve been watching this week, and this book I’m reading right now… the characters had a lot of misunderstandings in their relationships and I just ended up wanting to throw my phone at my screen lols)
Forgiveness is a fragile thing. There’s a saying that said “it’s easier to ask for forgiveness than ask permission.” That actually made me think for a second. But asking for forgiveness is one thing, and receiving it is another. I personally think there are different factors that contribute to forgiveness.
If I may say… 3 things
In my opinion, pride kills a lot of relationships, and humility is not a celebrated character enough. If I can be honest for a bit, I know I am a humble person and I’m not saying that to brag (ha! what a paradox), but it just is a fact. There’s a difference with saying the genuine truth with good intention than saying it is being a proud.
The dictionary defines humility as “the quality or condition of being humble; modest opinion or estimate of one’s own importance, rank, etc”
Humility is when you don’t think you are better than others. When you consider others before yourself. When you are without pride.
Proverbs 11:2 in the Bible says “When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.
This may sound redundant for some but time does heal. When you allow time to pass by, it almost is a balm to the wound in a person’s heart. Healing is not always immediate. In fact (this is just my own fact), 90% of the time (ha!) it requires time for it to be effective. Allow yourself the time to heal.
This is really a biggie and often is the last resort of an option for most people when solving problems. See, I went to a leadership school, and for THREE years, my college couldn’t stress enough how many times we have talked about ‘Communication’. Because it is vital for every group of people. It’s better to overcommunicate than under-communicate. That’s probably my number one tip for teams. I do catch myself do that. But it’s actually a good trait that just needs more sharpening, but it is a raw good trait. At worse, they receive one too many texts. At best, they will know and are in the loop of what’s happening.
How about you, any tips you can share about keeping healthy relationships? Comment below, I’d be happy to read them.